Fake It Till You Make: Overcoming your fear of the new

The Joys of ReadingWe often hear someone tell a newbie at something to fake it till you make it. Wikipedia, the lazy man’s encyclopedia (I love it.), states that this saying “suggests by imitating confidence, competence, and an optimistic mindset, a person can realize those qualities in their real life.”

Now, here we are talking about behaviors, not competences. It’s never okay to say you can speak Spanish or write code when you’ve never done it before. And it isn’t okay to misrepresent yourself. But it is okay, and often wise, to put a smile on even when you aren’t feeling it.

Too often, we wait until we think we’re ready, until we’re feeling it. Unfortunately, our feelings often work against us. Two things feelings are good for, to protect us from threats or from falling on our faces. These are the very risks that we have to face when we attempt something new. Continue reading “Fake It Till You Make: Overcoming your fear of the new”

Summer Reading in July

The Joys of ReadingSometimes reading is a breeze and you can just while away the hours between the pages of a book. I love those days when you can lose yourself in a story, maybe even enter another world a la The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe.

Then there are times like I had this month when I started a couple of different books and went bleh . . . and set them aside.

One of the highlights I did find was a book by Continue reading “Summer Reading in July”

Fighting Complacency

This month, in my post on Edie Melson’s The Write Conversation, Puff sleepingI examine our tendencies to become complacent in our spiritual lives. Merriam-Webster defines being complacent as being “marked by self-satisfaction especially when accompanied by unawareness of actual dangers or deficiencies.”

Self-satisfaction. Unawareness. These are especially dangerous when it concerns our relationship with our Lord. Use this link to read more on why complacency is so dangerous.